AdoptionPosted by: Tom on ... 21 Apr 2010 07:05 pm
Today contained our last official act for the adoption of Claire … the swearing ceremony where the parents pledge that all information is accurate, etc. We’ll get to that in a moment.
The day started with another late wake up and a quick run down to the breakfast buffet for our standard fare of … whatever we want. We’ve mentioned this before but the buffet is ridiculous. Claire always gets a hard-boiled egg, some congee, some ham, noodles, tater tots and about a gallon of ketchup. She never touches the congee, ham or noodles. Nibbles on the egg and tater tots. Takes a spoon to the ketchup and eats it straight out of the cup. Mom and Dad vary between a few different options with Sandy focusing on fruit and Tom on bacon. We do have our priorities.
After that we headed out for a bit of shopping/wandering. We visited Sherry’s in search of some more squeaky shoes with a little bit of luck. We also bought a few other gift items for the kids and others. Some pretty neat stuff.
Lunch was purchased from the hotel “deli” … noodles for Claire (her favorite) and beef, tomato and egg on rice for Sandy and me. We only had a little time after that before our trip to the US Consulate so we relaxed in the hotel room where the temperature is perfectly adjusted and ready for human habitation (as opposed to outside where the temperature isn’t too bad, but the humidity is only worse at the bottom of the Pacific Ocean). We then headed down to meet with Helen and get on the bus for the Consulate.
All of the families adopting a child 2 years or older met at the Consulate for today’s proceedings. Most of those shared one of two buses that left from Shamian Island today. We met a very nice lady (Julie) from Detroit, Michigan. This is her second adoption of a Chinese child. Her first died from complications of flu five years ago (she was 2 1/2 years old) … very sad.
The bus ride was about 45 minutes and we ended up smack dab in the middle of the financial district of downtown Guangzhou. Very fancy and very “New Yorky” (sorry to go all George Dubya on you). The US Consulate is housed on at least the 5th floor (there might be other offices above the one where we landed) of a high rise building.
Sadly, they took away all of our electronic equipment. It turns out to be a fairly standard rule in embassies and consulates … trying to keep any bug “laying” equipment out of the area and also prevent any pictures being taken of consulate employees. So we weren’t able to take any pictures or video of the actual meeting room or the ceremony. Oh well.
So the first stage of the process involved having your child’s name called out. You then went to a window where they quickly verified that the photos they had matched who was standing in front of them. Check. After everybody was done a very nice woman came out and explained the next step. She gave a little history on the US Consulate in Guangzhou. First, every other country processed naturalization and immigration visas in embassies … not consulates. So why were we all meeting in Guangzhou and not Beijing? Well, traditionally, over 90% of Chinese immigrants come from southern China and so they made the decision long ago to move all such work down to their Guangzhou consulate. Interesting. She said that this facility was the 4th largest consular section in the world and also helped split the already heavy load from the US Embassy in Beijing.
Next she asked all of the parents to stand and hold their right hand up. Sandy and I both commented later that we were hoping for something a bit more inspiring in the “swearing” process. We were hoping for something like …
“Please repeat after me: I do hereby swear to love and protect this child I am bringing home to the greatest country in the world. I promise to honor my country and the constitution upon which it was founded. I vow and solemnly swear and now and always promise to be AWESOME in every way, every day.”
Instead it went more like this …
“Please repeat after me: I hereby swear that all of the paperwork I have filled out in regards to this adoption is true and correct to the best of my knowledge.”
Uh, OK. Yeah, it totally is. Thanks.
To be honest, even though the swearing in itself was a bit boring … Sandy and I still got completely emotional. It was a touching experience and I personally felt a wave of relief at having all official aspects of this adoption “in the bag”. After four very long and often difficult years … it’s done. We are now days away from bringing home yet another shining light in our lives. How blessed we feel to further complete our family with this beautiful girl who for so long has been know as Wu ChunYi … but to us Claire. How lucky we feel to know her and love her. We continue to hope that we can be as good for her as she deserves. She has already known so much of pain, anguish and discomfort in her life … we wish to bring no more to her. We only hope to love her and help her prepare for a full and happy life. And in a few short days … you will also get to meet and start to know her.
After a quick regroup at the hotel we headed out for a laundry drop off trip to Jenny’s. The power was out in most of the shops today … so it was pretty difficult to see or purchase anything. So it was a quick trip out and then back to the room. We quickly had another difficult meltdown moment … we think this one was heightened by extreme fatigue … it was BAD. She eventually fell asleep from crying so hard and long so we decided not to head out for dinner. Instead we ordered in Papa John’s for delivery, $20 USD for a large. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot for American pizza in China … but it’s a lot compared to what we are used to spending. It was worth it … particularly because it was delivered. Sandy just held Claire until she woke back up. She was still unhappy … but once she started to eat a little bit, she got a bit better. We then discovered a “pepperoni” game that smoothed everything out and she brightened right back up. It’s interesting … most of our positive interaction with her at this point is game based. If it’s “laugh-y, high energy” stuff we’re doing … it’s all good. We really haven’t had many quiet, cuddly moments with her … hopefully those will start to come soon. Right now during those quieter moments she keeps herself pretty independent from us and won’t talk much.
We were all feeling better after dinner and so headed out for ice cream and a walk. We grabbed the goodies and then walked back over to the park we visited last night. Tonight we happened to hit it when a light show over the water was going on. The entire water front on both sides had synchronized lights and lasers putting on a pretty good show to some music.
It was then time for Claire’s bath and bed. She delayed and delayed … which is a good thing. It means she was enjoying the time with us and didn’t want to end. At least, that’s what “the books” say. So finally around 9:45pm she and Sandy fell asleep. I followed about 1/2 hour later.
Tomorrow we head for Hong Kong … should be a pretty low key day otherwise. It’s a 2 hour train ride from Guangzhou to Hong Kong … so we’ll prepare ourselves with iPod movies and activities!
Next report from the “Fragrant Harbor” (Hong Kong).